Sooooooooo...I was thinking about how I had an almost completed post and thought I saved it but I didn't. And it's too much to even try to do over at 5am. Yep, 5am. I set my clock for 5am on the day I'm supposed to have a new post, so I could finish up. I know I'm not going to work on a quality post to go out later, so alas, here we are. This, ladies and gentlemen, is a lesson on procrastination, time management, and consistency.
So I was thinking about this year's presidential election. Ya know, I was about to make up a fake acronym for STFU because my mother reads all my blog posts, but I'm 41 years old and super grown, so it is what it is at this point...HEY, MA! Lol...anyway, I've been thinking about the election and I cannot WAIT for it to be over. Please don't take this the wrong way. I am well aware of the dire importance of this election. I even plan on getting out early to vote, but I REALLY need people to STFU. Let me see if I can get you to understand where I'm coming from.
Admittedly, I am NOT the most well versed in the area of politics. I know the bare bone minimum, the basics! I can engage in a political conversation for a good 10 minutes. Beyond that, I'm zoning out and thinking about what I'm going to have for lunch the next day, deciding whether or not I should get tickets for Usher's Las Vegas residency, or trying to remember why it's 180 degrees and not 360 degrees. I also know enough to discuss with my 18 year old why he should vote for the first time (which he did already...I'm so proud!!) and why his vote does in fact count. But, I KNOW my limitations. You won't hear me quoting stats about the Trump/Pence administration vs the Obama/Biden administration. You will not catch me debating on social media about tax policies or healthcare. And there most definitely will not be any persuasion blog post about why one party is better than the other or why they actually all suck. I wish more people were like me though and stayed in their lanes. Who knew I was acquainted with so many political pundits and poli-sci majors?? Hey, sharing knowledge is fine. Some tidbit of information you have may help in the decision making of someone who is undecided about who they should vote for or whether or not they should vote at all. Or it can assist people in understanding the election process better. I really don't have a problem with people sharing facts or even their opinions. What grinds my gears are the people who think they know so much that they condemn others for not knowing what (they think) they know or for not agreeing with their stance. It irks my soul when a person tries to force information on another in a judgmental and condescending way. And it makes my skin crawl when someone has just discovered a documentary on Netflix or just realized that CNN or MSNBC is in their channel line-up or watched a debate for the first time in their 53 years and now all of sudden they are experts spewing hate, stupidity, or misinformation in the most obnoxious way possible. Those are the cases when I wish that a person would just vote and STFU! People, especially adults, should be able to voice their opinions and state facts without attacking a person's intelligence or character.
Then, you have the other extreme; folks who pretty much mirror the techniques of the people mentioned above, except they are NOT voting! But not only are they vehemently explaining why we shouldn't vote and why most of our votes don't count anyway, they are also plentiful with the complaints! Complaining about the inadequacies of the candidates, about what politicians have or have not done, about the state of our government, and the list goes on. All of this without offering any logical solution or having/implementing any alternate action plan. Truth be told, I don't think the powers that be are too interested in what a non-voter has to say. How do the kids say it? I thought somebody who don't vote said sum'n! Lol...but seriously, things are set up so the main way to be heard is to exercise your civic duty and vote...not just in the presidential election, but in your local elections which have more of a direct effect on you, your community, and your everyday life. So, this case is when I need people to vote or STFU! If not voting is the best decision for you and your household, fine, that's totally your prerogative. But again, leave other people alone if they don't agree and shut your complaining face up if you have no solutions or intentions to make any moves toward change.
As a Black woman, I'm ALWAYS going to vote. There have been too many who fought and suffered before me, just so I could have this right. If for nothing else, I feel like I owe it to my ancestors. I respectfully encourage all who can to vote. Become as informed as you can. Do you your own research and fact checking. We literally have all the information and resources we need right at our finger tips, right in our pockets and pocketbooks!
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So I was thinking about Bernie Mac (RIP)...I know it's random, but stick with me. I was thinking about his final joke on The Original Kings of Comedy (a joke that would probably be considered highly offensive these days, btw). Sue me, but I still crack up EVERY time I see it! You know the one where the the kid who stutters really bad goes to get on the school bus, but every time the bus driver opens the door, he ends up pulling off after waiting because the kid takes a long while trying to get out what he has to say before getting on the bus. After a few times, the boy's mother goes with him to the school bus and asks the bus driver why he keeps leaving her son and it turns out he's a bad stutterer too, so he thought the boy was teasing him! Y'all...this is exactly what my dating life, I dare not call it a love life, has felt like for the past *16 years. Except it ain't funny! *From here on out, we'll refer to my dating life as Not So Sweet 16.
Not So Sweet 16 has felt like "he" was teasing me and I'm not even certain who "he" is; God, The Universe, Mars, Satan, Ashton Kutcher, I DON'T KNOW! What I DO know is that the end of every dating situation during the Not So Sweet 16 has left me feeling like I was SOOOOOOOOO close, yet SOOOOOOOOO far. As a matter of fact, as I type, I'm in the process of being ghosted. 😑 I've been so unlucky in love. I don't understand! I mean, I've got loving myself down pat. I've learned plenty of lessons and kissed enough frogs. I don't need anymore examples or samples or glimpses or prototypes. Don't get me wrong, by no means am I desperate. I have a full life and am not needing anyone to "complete" me, but I AM human and there are just parts of life, good and bad, that I long to share with a partner, not just my mama, my son, or my girls. I think 2020 has had us all seeking out a little extra support! I'd also like to have someone other than my mother as my emergency contact. LOL! There are parts of singledom I appreciate and enjoy...however...ENOUGH already! I'm 41 years old...41!!!!!! I need this part of my life to get poppin while I'm FAIRLY young-ish and while the world is still in one piece. I don't know if you know though, but lots of people are trash and "dating" is even stinkier trash. Overall, the process has not been fun for me. It's actually been anxiety inducing and more often than not, time wasting. And even though I said it wasn't, this ish IS funny. Not So Sweet 16 has been so ridiculous at times, it's pure comedy. A comedy of errors. A series of unfortunate events. At this point, I want "him" to stop teasing me and just send the perfect guy to me in one of those Amazon Prime trucks or something. Anything is possible, right??