So I was thinking about this atrocity of a book that I read a couple nights ago. Some of you may have read it or seen it floating around. The title of the book is Sex Me: Confessions of Daddy's Little Freak. It's a young lady's firsthand account of her relationship with the self proclaimed pied piper himself, R. Kelly. Well, I'm sure that we're to assume that it is R. Kelly based on the various details. She doesn't really outright say it. I think one time she says Rob and another time she says Robert, but other than that, she refers to him as "Daddy"... Another obvious tip-off is that every chapter is named after an R. Kelly song. The author also never reveals her identity. She uses the pseudonym, "Daddy's Girl".
I don't even know where to begin. I was finished with the book in about an hour. It was less than one hundred pages and definitely a page turner. Reading it had me on an emotional rollercoaster. I was appalled, angry, sad, shocked, confused, and in utter disbelief. Disbelief not because I'm not certain that the pedophilic crooner is a sick scumbag, but disbelief that the story as it was told is 100% true. The book is supposedly a memoir, but it reads like a work of fiction. It reminded me of those "urban" novels. You know, the EXTRA hood ones? If you're like me, I haven't read many of those, but I DID read Flyy Girl by Omar Tyree and The Coldest Winter Ever by Sistah Souljah. You've probably read those too, so you know what I'm talking about. What this sister wrote and claimed to recall was so outrageous that it seemed like it was just a bunch of stuff added for entertainment purposes. The book was full of drugs, alcohol, unreasonable amounts of reckless sex, orgies, physical/sexual/verbal/emotional abuse, betrayal, and just all things bad!
Kelly, the king of Rhythm and Blues Clues, is described (indirectly) as a sick and manipulative monster. Even if everything that the writer alleges in this book is not true, I do believe that it contains some truth. The girl claims to have been sixteen years old when she started dealing with R should be in Jaily. That's easy to believe because of his track record. Aside from all of the heinous things that the young woman accuses the singer of doing, what's most disturbing to me is that she still puts some of the blame for what he did on herself! She was a CHILD. Nothing he did was her fault. Regardless of how "fast" or calculated she was in her initial pursuit of the celebrity abuser, she was still a minor when this all started and the burden of responsibility was on him...and not only him! In her situation, and all the others that we've heard about over the years, there are plenty more people who can share the blame. I blame his employees and families of the victims who have agreed to turn a blind eye to his activities because they value a paycheck more than standing up for what's right and more than the safety of the girls/women he constantly took advantage of. I blame his "friends" in the industry who have done an awful job holding him accountable. I blame those of us who have continued to defend him and support his career. When is enough enough? How long can he be excused because of his good music or because his momma died or because he can't read or because he was molested? How many more girls/women need to come forward before we believe what he is?? We've been hearing stories of his shenanigans since the early '90s!!! He needs to take responsibility for what he has done and the lives that he has destroyed. He needs to not sing another note, write another song, or go on another tour until he truly acknowledges the problem and seeks/gets help. I pray that he does and that all of the people who have been effected by his sickness are healed and made whole!
If you're interested in reading the tale of "Daddy's Girl" and you haven't already received the book in your email inbox, via text message, or in your Facebook messenger, you can click here. The book is available to download for $10 and it is available in paperback form for $20.