So I was thinking about a couple things that were in pop culture news this past week, both within the realm of reality/docu-series tv programming. The Braxton Family Values closed out the season with a 3 day therapy retreat with none other than THEE fixer of lives, Iyanla Vanzant. In one of the two final episodes, Toni Braxton spoke her truth by saying that she loves her family, but most of the time she doesn't like them. She also stated that if they weren't her family, they wouldn't be her friends. People were surprised that she said that and seemed to think that it was sad that she would say and could feel such a thing. Well er um...I know where Toni is coming from because I feel the same way! Truth be told, I would not be checking for some of my family if we weren't family. I'm sure the feeling is mutual and, right or wrong, I'm totally fine with that! The love we share for each other is undeniable, but the like factor isn't always present. Luckily like is not a prerequisite for love. How do you feel about your family? Do any of you share the opinion that Toni and I share?
Another thing that had some people riled up is comments Miss Tina (Lawson formerly known as Knowles) made on the OWN docu-series, Black Love. She said how Richard Lawson had most of the qualities that she had been looking for in a man. As she was saying this, she also added, "Is he perfect? Absolutely not..." Mr. Lawson says, "No?" and Miss Tina kinda does the sassy woman neck roll/eye roll/head turn combination move and says "NO", but she continued to speak about him having a lot of the qualities that she loves and that they are having a good time together. All the while he is sitting with a hurt and pensive look. First, let me say that I LOVE me some Miss Tina and in my eyes she can do no wrong. I am actually more of a stan for her than that daughter of hers. Don't come for me Beyhive, cuz I'm still a member too. I just adore Queen Mother! LOL! Anyway, when I watched the episode I didn't think anything of it. I thought that their second time around story was cute and it (along with the other couples' stories) gave me hope! I didn't think twice about it until I kept seeing the clip on social media and read some of the commentary. I saw people say that she was being disrespectful, unkind, and even unloving. Yes she was sassy in her delivery, but in my opinion, she wasn't being disrespectful. It was all pretty light hearted. I understood what she was saying, because nobody is perfect. From what she was saying, I got that he isn't perfect, but still has a lot of the qualities that she had been seeking, she loves those, and she's happy! I also understand why she responded the way she did when her husband seemed to be surprised that she didn't think that he was perfect, because why would he even think that he was?! She isn't the only person that I've seen point out that their mate and/or relationship isn't perfect. I've found that people who have a relationshsip that outsiders deem as "relationship goals", simply want people to know the reality. They want you to know that they are regular, imperfect people who have to work at what they have. They want you to know that they argue and don't always like each other. These people just want the world to know that even in the midst of their imperfections, arguments, and all their ups and downs, a healthy, loving, and fun relationship is possible and can be beautiful! What do y'all think? Is it a case of not what she said, but how she said it? Or do you think she should not have made the statement at all? Let me know what you think in the comments!