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At times I have stuff on my mind that I want to share. It doesn't always warrant a phone call or text to friends, but often it IS something I need to get off my chest beyond a journal entry. So, here we are. Welcome to my random thoughts. Enjoy!
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2/8/2019 5 Comments

I Still Get Jealous

So I was thinking about jealousy. Forget a hundred, I'm about to keep it 1000% with y'all. I be gettin jealous man! LOL! But seriously, I'm surrounded by such dope people doing such big things. My peeps are out here really living their best lives, taking care of business, and realizing dreams. And sometimes I get a lil jelly. Jealousy gets a bad rap. When people hear that term, they automatically equate it with things like being a hater, being bitter, or being unsupportive. But, I don't think it has to be a bad thing. As humans, we will naturally experience different emotions. When I think about this, the animated movie, Inside Out, comes to mind. It did an excellent job of illustrating the importance of feeling and expressing our emotions. Anger, sadness, jealousy are a few of the emotions that can become toxic if not handled properly, but I believe if you just feel what you feel and move on, you can experience each of these emotions in a healthy way.
When I find myself feeling envious of someone's bucket list get-away or dream home or new relationship or newsworthy accomplishment, I do the following things to make the jealous rollercoaster an enjoyable ride.
  • I acknowledge the feeling. It is absolutely possible to feel multiple emotions simultaneously. When a loved one celebrates a major accomplishment or life event that causes me to feel pangs of jealousy, I don't ignore it. I might even say, “Girl, I’m JEALOUS!” Ignoring or dismissing jealousy can be common because we tend to have guilt for feeling this way. We might think that we're an awful person for being jealous of our friend or family member. For me, I've realized that isn't true. When good things happen in the lives of those I love, I am genuinely happy, enthusiastically supportive, and may even loudly shout their praise from the rooftops...sometimes even louder than them! All that doesn't eliminate that lil green-eyed monster that sneaks in. So, when it comes, I just let it flow until it’s gone. I do that so I can move on with a pure celebratory attitude, avoid resentment, and focus on the positive...which brings me to my next point.
  • I get inspired! Once I get over myself, I can reflect on the idea that whatever was accomplished or obtained, did not happen overnight. There was a journey of sorts that brought them to their current place of winning. Whether it be failed business ventures, loss of material things, non-stop hustle, longer than bargained for patience, exercising exponential levels of faith, severed relationships, the thrill of exhilarating highs, or the ache of debilitating lows...everyone has a road to destiny they must travel and they won’t all be the same. Embracing that inspires me to focus on my own journey, empowers me to persevere, gives me the strength to hold on to my faith, and encourages me to work hard and never give up!
I’m human, so I still get jealous (Cue the cutie, Nick Jonas. Click here if you don’t know and thank me later! 😉). But, I’m in touch with my feelings, so I give myself pep talks and use it as an opportunity for growth! Do you ever get jealous? Talk to me in the comments! I love to hear from you. 🥰
5 Comments
Jay
2/8/2019 10:40:53 am

Thank you for your transparency on this. I think we all are guilty of jealousy in some form or another. I personal find a lot of experiences come from social media views. I try to keep in perspective that people only show the highlight reel of life, but we all have our struggles and journey. One tip I try to use when I feel the jealousy bug coming on, is I unplug from the sources that cause it, like taking a break from social media. This is totally relatable!

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Cheryce
2/8/2019 12:57:23 pm

I have been thinking about reducing my social media time!

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Melissa
2/10/2019 12:09:40 am

Cheryce. This was good, vulnerable, and truthful.

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Cheryce
2/10/2019 06:51:57 am

Thank you! I was hesitant about sharing.

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Alicia Smith
2/25/2019 08:20:32 pm

In recent years jealously and comparison have become a real struggle for me. I think I’ve felt guilty about feeling that way because I wasn’t always like this. Thanks for this cause it’s allowed me the freedom to understand that I’m human but I still need to work ok this.

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