WATCH OUT! 5 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

Originally posted on September 2, 2014

Shari and I believe that we could have avoided some major heartache if we had just paid more attention. There was a certain hue smacking us both right in the face, but we chose to ignore it. We were seriously blinded by a naive idea of love. That bold crimson that we would normally recognize to mean halt, don’t go there, alert, stop…we mistook it for Cupid’s sweet shade of love. So since we care about our readers and want people to learn from our mistakes, we are going to share with you the 5 red flags that you should NEVER ignore in a relationship. Read on. Save yourself.

• He wants to keep your relationship secret Unless he’s a hot-shot actor, dreamy pop star, or Jay Z whose fan base is rooted in his single and ready to mingle (or gangster) persona, then there is really no logical reason that a committed, loving relationship should be kept under wraps for an extended period of time. Is he hiding something? Is he living a double life?? Is he ashamed of you??? Privacy is one thing, but c’mon!
• He avoids questions or becomes extra defensive Once again it seems as though he’s lying or hiding something. Communication is key. There’s a difference between someone who’s a private person and someone who is just plain sneaky. If it’s not a big deal, he should have no problem answering whatever question you ask of him. A healthy relationship cannot be built on secrets and lies.
• His best friends are female…ALL (or MOST) of them Not only are they all female, but he hangs out with them frequently and they don’t want/he doesn’t want them to meet you. If they’re “just friends”, then you can all hang out together, right? Don’t get me wrong, a man and woman can definitely be best friends, but at some point, someone is going to catch feelings and THAT can throw a wrench in things – especially if one or both parties is in a relationship.
• His family and friends (and yours) are telling you that you shouldn’t be with him This is pretty much self-explanatory. If his MOTHER says run, your nickname should be “Cheetah”!
• You have this “feeling” in your gut Women’s intuition is real. Sometimes you don’t need to “see the signs”, you just know. Don’t ignore that nagging feeling. Always follow your first mind!